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“What It Means To: Be a Graduate Student”

Hello, all!  Welcome back to another Sit, Stay, & Blog post!

If you are a new reader or just haven’t yet figured out my posting schedule, I ideally like to make a blog post weekly.  However, it could not be any more ironic that this post is “late” for the very same reason I’m writing it — GRAD STUDENT LIFE!

I want to start off by saying that, while being a graduate student can entail a whirlwind of emotions and experiences, I am incredibly grateful for the opportunities that have led me to where I am today! 🙂

“But you’re just a graduate student!  How hard can it be?”

Have you ever heard a statement similar to this?  Perhaps you are a secretary or a sales associate, and someone has said to you, “How hard can it really be to work as a secretary?” or “You’re just a sales associate, dealing with customers can’t be that hard!”  Maybe you are even a high school student and continuously hear, “You’re only in high school, how hard can your life be?”  Here’s the thing:  It IS hard work.  We all have unique experiences and accompanying challenges, and it is the right of the individual to determine just how difficult their job is, be it as a volunteer, student, part-time worker, full-time employee, or perhaps as a stay-at-home parent!

So what does it mean to be “just” a graduate student?  For starters, it means never leaving work.  The weekend arrives, but that does not erase your 10-page paper deadline for Saturday at 11:59 p.m.  It means experiencing total exhaustion after a night of class but somehow still finding the motivation to read your textbook materials at midnight for the next day’s classes.  It can mean factoring into one’s schedule the hours of time spent on the road commuting to and from classes — precious time which cannot be used to finish assignments, read textbooks, work a part-time job, or “catch up” on sleep.

Here’s another interesting point:  Many graduate students I know, including myself, are forced to work multiple jobs (often in addition to an internship).  That means bouncing from one task to the next with little time to engage in self-care.  Words cannot describe how dangerous this can be for the mental health of students, but we do it for one reason….because we have to.  The cost of graduate school is astronomical, and unlike when one is an undergraduate student, the federal government does not offer grants to graduate students.  Society’s future doctors, nurse practitioners, licensed professional counselors and social workers, etc. are often forced to pay for graduate school solely with loans whose interest rates I’ve seen as high as 15 percent!  In a sense, the cost of schooling and accompanying loan interest rates are sadly designed to financially set people back before they even have a chance to get ahead!  Thus, the need to work multiple jobs emanates from a need to survive, pay for gas to get to and from school, for course textbooks, to eat, keep a roof over their heads (and the list goes on).

I have had many people challenge me about my decision to attend graduate school by making statements such as, “You don’t need an advanced college degree, just get out and get a job instead of digging your debt hole deeper.”  These kinds of statements deeply sadden me, and here’s why:  I would not trade my experiences in graduate school for anything….not even less debt.   I recognize that it is an intense time commitment and whirlwind of emotions, but it has undoubtedly molded me into who I am today (and who I will become).  It has provided me with unimaginable experiences including an invitation to present research at a national conference, opportunities to meet and network with resourceful colleagues in my cohort, and being blessed with professors who are supportive and committed to providing their students with a quality education.  To me, it is less about the money and more about the experience, and I am forever grateful for everything I have experienced thus far as a graduate student….and, yes, even those dreaded 3:00 a.m. study sessions! 🙂

I owe a world of thank yous to my family who supports me in every aspect possible, to Alex and Pinella for their patience with my often hectic schedule, and to my professors who continuously support and inspire me!

I thank you for the precious time that YOU took to read about my experiences as a full-time student!  I am so appreciative of my readers and thoroughly enjoy reading your comments and feedback to my posts!
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As Thanksgiving grows nearer, I want to take the opportunity to blog about things that I am thankful for, beginning with family.  Next week’s post will feature my little brother!  Stay tuned for, “What It Means To:  Have a Brother for a Best Friend!”




Welcome! In a world where time is a valuable, precious component of life, I am ever so grateful for the personal time you are taking to read about me and how I began Sit, Stay, Blog! In 2018, I graduated with a Master's Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, and in 2016 I received a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Psychology, with a minor in Sociology. While attending my undergraduate institution, I involved myself in a plethora of unique activities which undoubtedly provided me with memorable experiences and a motivation to document and share these experiences with others. One of my most monumental experiences to date has involved being the first student to ever raise and train a service dog, Pinella, at my undergraduate institution. With that experience came both challenges and inspiring moments that I hope to share with you along this magnificent journey of Sit, Stay, & Blog. My primary goal is to connect with my readers on a personal level and create content that is meaningful and relevant to everyone’s interests. I am forever grateful for your support of Sit, Stay, & Blog, and it is my genuine hope that you visit my blog page and enjoy the content provided throughout! -T.

12 thoughts on ““What It Means To: Be a Graduate Student”

  1. Another great read! Keep up the good work! I admire you Tiana and all the hard work you do! One day in the future you will look back and think, How in the world did I do it all?

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  2. There is no substitute for education, and no shortcuts to get it. More power to you for persevering. Short of mismanaging your life, it will pay off in so many ways.
    As for “How hard can it be?” I am retired and have never been so busy, but people in general will only see things from their perspective. If retirement to them means doing nothing, then of course “How hard can it be?”
    The lesson we can take from this is to always try and see things from different perspectives, as it makes for a greater understanding of so much.

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    1. Thank you so much for your thoughtful feedback and kind words. Your insight about being retired and still maintaining a busy lifestyle is eye-opening and really drives home the point that it is all about perspective! I always say education is key, and if we, as as society, can educate one another about our unique experiences and perspectives, we could work to make the world that much better of a place. It’s all about being open-minded and receptive to ideas that differ from one’s own!

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      1. Being open minded to differences is surely the key. Sadly, some country leaders (and many politicians in general) are not setting good examples. My hope is that your generation will do a better job of breaking down the current “barriers” than my generation has done!

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      2. I hope for the same. My conversations with my peers in my graduate program have certainly reassured me that, while there is much work to be done, there are many individuals out there committed to making this country a safer, more accepting environment! At this point, only time can tell how our hard work will pay off.


  3. I’m so glad to be able to read your blog. I definitely understand and remember being a grad student, working, trying to have a life 😁 It was definitely worth it as I now have the opportunity to do what I love and I believe you will do amazing things also. You are off to a great start as it is and I look forward to reading more as you write and share. I wish I could say I am more consistent in my own blogging but I hope to become a bit more stable as I get “my ducks in a row” Which will be included in my blog lol.

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    1. I am happy that you were able to relate to some of the things in this post! Being a graduate student is by no means an easy task, but I believe you’re correct in that the hard work opens many doors for new opportunities. I thank you so much for the comment and positive feedback and genuinely look forward to following your journey through your blog postings as well! Best of luck, and thanks again! 🙂


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